Saturday, October 25, 2008
Not Sure About Saturday Though
Just another morning at work.
Suit: Can I get a black coffee thanks.
Me: Would you like a short or long black?
Suit: I'm from Vegas, I don't know what that means.
I'm guessing people from Vegas don't drink much coffee. It's probably not me, because Americans around here sure don't like/drink coffee. I don't expect them to know what a macchiato is; at least it makes life simpler for me.
Whereas I get blue-collared workers in Martin Place asking for things like fried dim sims (wtf?!).
I didn't go to Din Tai Fung. James had to go to Uni for something and we were late, so it was already closed. No photos (again). Maybe next week ne?
Every Saturday, Mother uses the long drive home to 'teach' me life skills, in particular work and men. I already know that she is biased, and does it to mostly piss the Father off by teaching me to be everything he does not like in a daughter.
And every Saturday, I get the same (but interesting nonetheless) lecture.
Make sure you find a rich husband who isn't stingy.
Make lots of money.
Be successful and take care of yourself.
Don't have kids. Ever.
If you have kids, don't give up your job. Get a nanny.
Do not marry if you can help it.
If you marry, marry someone who makes more money than you and is smarter than you.
Love is not as important as money.
And as per usual, I agree for most part. It's not as if I haven't thought of it before. Father keeps telling her off; she's raising me poorly and teaching me stupid things that will ruin my life. He still thinks I am too young to understand.
Forgive me, Father, but I am well aware of what makes this world go around. I have for a few years already.
Mother says I am not being a gold-digger - I am merely looking out for number one. She is teaching me how to defend myself and not be hurt by men. Thank you, Mother, but I am quite adept at it myself. It's depressing to be reminded of women's inferiority, though.
Which is why I gave up feminism. Women will always be beneath men, and this equality shit will never happen so long as women are giving birth. Ah I await the day men can give birth too, then we'll talk again Mother.
Another depressing thing is that the dream to be Super Mum is more further away than before. I can either be a rich and successful business woman with no love life or family, or be a stay-at-home wife with a rich husband and be bored/stressed out of my wits. I still haven't decided which I want to be yet.
The former is more tempting since I'm already in Uni, and working ANY job is easier than raising kids. Really. And going through peak periods at work is so much easier than say, child birth.
But the main point my Mother is trying to stress is to never, ever let a man bring me down.
I question whether my Mother is actually Chinese. But then again, she's a Guangdong woman (the most coniving, sly, manipulative and selfish Asian women). Many of these women have screwed over men for money or citizenship. My uncle Michael, our ex-chef Eric and the Father included.
So I'm not allowed to marry a poor guy no matter how much I claim to 'love' him, can't marry someone with lower IQ because I'll just be frustrated with having to dumb myself down all the time (not to mention smart women can't get husbands), and to not have kids unless the pre-requisites (money, intelligence and a good amount of love/care) are met. Otherwise, I'll be stuck in an unhappy marriage like her and fighting over financial difficulty every single day.
Well, looks like 90% of the male population are fucked :D
My Mother is the most bitter, scorned woman, ever.
No wonder Daddy says I should stop listening to her. (But it was you who scorned her in the first place, Daddy).
Too much information.
But hey, this is a blog that I co-created. I need to rant.
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13 comments:
Be more optimistic.
The world isn't entirely bad.
You should read that "Wisdom" book or just go see the exhibition at some art gallery... <_<;;
Maybe the art gallery of NSW?
I don't agree with 40% of the things you said in this post.
When your mum goes "don't have kids ever" don't you ever think she regrets your existence? Cuz it'll surely make me sad...
And WHY on earth would you think you only had those two options? You give up before you begin. I am sure there are LOTS of rich successful business women with a love life or family. Just because it is the stereotype doesn't mean it rules all the population of women who are successful. Many perhaps have your thinking path, wanting to be successful and not seeing yourself as a family women cuz you THINK you won't be able to do it and therefore never even try to.
Also boredom and stress is controlled by your own self. Why lament over it if you can try and change it?
I think at the end of the day you wouldn't turn out to be like any of these images you say.
It's true i think your mum is too bitter, and putting her own let down on her kids is just mean...
And although i know you know better than to just listen to every word she says your entry seems half conflicted T_T
Those two options of generalisations. I'm sure an opportunity will arise, and I'll be able to take that. This is all worst case scenario stuff.
I know my Mother regrets marrying my Father. I know she regrets having kids before her life really began. However, it doesn't upset me because I understand where she is coming from. A lot of people will be hurt when told that their existence is regretable, but it's selfish to just think of your own feelings.
What she's doing isn't mean. She means well. She's looking out for me and protecting me from disappointments. She's not a good mother, but she tries in her own way.
Awww that's sweet. Now look back on that whenever you start hating her XD
vivien's own plan:
try to be a rich, successful business woman.
and finally, when I'm fed up wtih being a business woman (which, i can assure you, I will, because it woudl be quite stressful), revert to being a simple housewife. [so, my husband is only a safety blanket for later on]
when divorced: retire with the accumualted savings from being a rich successful business woman / revert back to being a business woman. (make sure you had prenups done)
ASSUMING I can find a husband i like, who isn't facing financial difficulties of his own, which hopefully, woudlnt' be too hard- you just have to be subtle with your 'smartness'.
or in a worse case scenario: i don't end up becoming a successful rich businesswoman bc i am too stupid=( . in thsi case, i get a husband to sustain me while I live with the simple pleasures of... um.. cooking?
seeeee. us women are only PRETENDING to be beneath men, but we all know it's the other way around 8).
but, long recession happening =( won't be able to find a job mb. AND I FORGOTONE MORE SCENARIO.
If i don't find a husband: become a rich, successful business woman and play with my sister's kids.
Kebu's plan:
1. Go through uni
2. Get my masters in Psych
3. Come out as a clinician
4. Provide help to cute guys
5. Sleep with my patients
6. Lose my licence
7. Die happy knowing that those were some pretty hot (and psychologically maladjusted) fucks.
...
I' not serious...
<_<
It takes 2 years before you can sleep with any of your patients anyway, and that's AFTER they finished therapy.
It's called professional ethics.
Or was it code of conduct?
Wo wang le.
We are some of the most contingent things in the world. One more drink, or one less drink, and we wouldn't exist.
Vivien you stole my plan! xD
Actually that's what I told her: I'll work and accumulate money, then when I'm sick of working I'll settle down and live off husbands money. If I divorce, I'll still have money!
@Kebu: Nice plan...
B doesn't have a plan for the future. She barely has a plan for tomorrow.
She'll let things roll the way they do, and be herself. She'll live each day to its fullest potential when she can, and hopefully find happiness at its end.
And like that, a lifetime can pass...
No offense B but living your day to its fullest with Kaito by the computer is not exactly fulfilling, but we all have our different vices.
I don't have a Kaito...
But if you did, you'd die happy.
*shot*
xD
No I won't Dx I wouldn't be able to use him properly =(
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